Yes Actually, You Can Run Away From Your Problems


Over and over again, I see other travelers, as well as myself, get accused of trying to “run away” from our problems. (Why else would someone choose a life of expanding horizons and constant adventure when they could be enjoying a mundane desk job, slaving away to earn enough to pay the mortgage on a house their never in because they’re always working?)  The standard reply is that we are not running away from life – we are running towards it.  I agree.  Though I would take things a step further.  I think you can run away from your problems (at least some of them).  Consider the following:

SAD

Psychology has identified Seasonal Affective Disorder, as a type of depression which effects people at the same time every year.  Symptoms include overeating and oversleeping, lack of energy, withdrawal from social activities etc. It is believed that the main cause of this disorder is lack of sunlight.

Guess what? The cold, short days of winter are something you can run away from! If we can’t hibernate, why not migrate?  I recall a conversation I had with a friend when she told me that her family was moving from their home on the Oregon coast to the big island of Hawaii.  “Isn’t it expensive,” I asked.  “We can be broke anywhere,” she replied. “At least this way, we’ll be broke and warm.”

Sunny Beach by Phillip Pessar.

Sunny Beach by Phillip Pessar.

Memories

Then there are those persistent memories.  I come from a beautiful place.  But it’s also the place that I happened to be during the darkest periods of my life.  There are memories and associations around every corner.  Moods sneak up from behind and ambush me.  I may not be able to outrun every memory, but by changing location I can run away from a lot of them.

The Pity Party

One thing that strikes me again and again is how much of what you get in life is due to where, when and to whom you were born.  If you are able to travel, chances are good that you did pretty well in this lottery.  It’s harder to wallow in self-pity when you are confronted with people who are worse off than you.  And the fact is, a lot of people are worse off than you.  Traveling in the “developing” world reminds me how lucky I am; how lucky to have been raised in a middle class family, to have English as my native language, to have gotten an education, to live during a time when airplanes can whisk me to the other side of the planet. Self-indulgence is a great thing to run away from.

Literally on the Run

Whenever I’ve stayed in any exotic location for very long, I’ve met people who are literally running away.  They fit into three categories. First there are those who run away from a relationship – didn’t bother getting a divorce, just left the country and are now living happily on the other side of the planet (often with a new family).  Next we find those who turn their back and run away from debt – be it credit cards or student loans – and disappear into another country.  A lot of people do this.  Then there are those who, if they do decide to go home, will be provided with free housing (a small cell with bars).  I’m not condoning this behavior and for the record, I do not fit into any of these categories.  However, from what I’ve observed, a lot of people do seem to be able to avoid past consequences by a simple change in geography.

Therefore, I would like to propose that the three most important things in real estate – location, location, location, are also pretty important in life.  It may well be true that you will be happier in one place than in another.  So if one can run away to a place where the sun shines, where their money goes farther, where they are reminded over and over again how lucky they are – why shouldn’t they?

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Comments

  1. Michael Jon Falk

    I like the “we can be broke anywhere” line lol….it’s so true. I used to live in Michigan’s U.P and the winters were so long…., they seemed to go on forever with just that little break of spring, summer and then cool falls all wrapped up in a few months.

  2. Penny Sadler

    I love this story! Funny and true! I just wish Italy was 30% cheaper than the US instead of 30% more expensive!

    1. Jennifer Choban Post author

      Penny, you sound like someone who would enjoy Latin America! Warm, friendly and inexpensive. Plus, Spanish and Italian are fairly similar.

  3. Penny Sadler

    I’ve spent quite a lot of time in Mexico. Never been to South America though. Buenos aires looks very appealing. Columbia looks interesting too. I should probably plan a trip. Just limited time and funds I always cave and go back to Italy. 🙂

    1. Jennifer Choban Post author

      I totally understand. I’m happily “stuck” in Mexico. However, I’ve had several friends travel to Colombia in the past few years and they say its fabulous. One of these days…

  4. Louisa

    Hear, hear! (Or should I say, ‘there, there!’) I used to be one of those stalwarts who believed you had to “face” your “issues” (gag!) but I ran away from the East Coast to Vancouver, BC after I graduated and I have never regretted it. And that cross-country escape led to yet more running away.

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